NLP, also known as Neuro-Linguistic Programming, essentially is just a way of thinking. NLP has identified a set of beliefs that have proved useful; in other words, it has been observed over time that you and I will get better results if we act as though these beliefs are true.
Have you noticed that some people get consistently better results in their lives than others? Ever wondered how they do it?
You probably already realise that it is largely about their approach to life, their way of thinking about life. So, what do they do that is different?
Presuppositions of NLP
1. The other person’s model of the world deserves respect.
In NLP, the set of beliefs we develop over time is called our ‘model of the world’. Since we each develop our own model of the world, based on our own experiences, our model is true for us.
Another person’s model is equally true for them, and just as valid as ours. It thus deserves respect in the same way that we would wish them to respect our own model. It is not our responsibility to change another person’s model of the world through an attempt to convince them that ours is better.
2. The meaning and outcome of communication is in the response you get.
We are generally taught that if we clearly communicate our thoughts and feelings through words, the other person should understand our meaning. We know from experience, however, that this does not always happen. The only way you can determine how effectively you are communicating is by observing the response you get from the person you are communicating with. If you get a response that indicates that they did not understand, then your communication was faulty. You therefore need to find a different way to get the concept across.
Acting as though this is true means that you accept 100 per cent of the responsibility for effective communication. You cannot ‘blame’ somebody else if your communication does not succeed.
3.The map is not the territory.
The model of the world which we create is what we use to navigate through life. We use it like a map to navigate through our reality. The map we use is not the actual reality, any more than the map in your car is the real countryside. It is simply an incomplete representation, which includes inaccuracies and errors, just as your road map can get out of date and not show absolutely everything that is there.
Each of us acts according to our personal map of reality, not reality itself. We operate and communicate from our maps. Most human problems are caused by the maps in our heads. Think about this; it is easier to change the map than the territory.
The mind and the body are one unit, fully interconnected. It is not possible to make a change in one without the other being affected.
5. People are doing the best they can with the resources they have available.
People set out to do well, not poorly. We do the best we can with what we have at the time in the way of resources.
6. Every behaviour has a positive intention.
A person’s behaviour has a positive intent for them at the time of the behaviour. From the perspective of their map of the world, the behaviour makes sense and seeks to provide a benefit.
The intention behind a behaviour may not be obvious to others or may not be considered positive by others.
Consider how things would be different if you assumed that everything anybody did was for a ‘good’ reason. Good by their standards that is.
I will post Presuppositions of NLP 7-12 later in Part 2
Post courtesy of People Alchemy